Does it seem I’m saying so?
Like you see from my message, I’m not saying/advising not to read, just that we don’t have to read, and we don’t have to follow the wishes, not even the “no” wishes. Sender decides what postcard they send, but not what item they send.
And everyone has agreed to this when they join.
Everyone knows, they can get a topic they hate or are afraid of.
(I hope no one is thinking other members would read their wishes and no’s and follow it, if they don’t even read the rules themselves 
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I don’t mention my worst trigger, because if I get that topic, the sender didn’t know. So I don’t need to think, did they do it intentionally.
But: from my experience, most members seem to read the profiles, and most send normal postcards, even postcards fitting to my wishes.
The amount of talk around this topic makes it seem like members send notecard parts like it were normal - so if there is any new members, it’s rare, and most members understand or have learned what a postcard is 
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She is saying that it is not required as a member. It is in my opinion very bad manners to ignore those requests. A couple of members have sent me COVID cards, so I have told them in my reply I would be destroying their cards. Those were language issues, where the senders apologized.
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Yes, i feel like you should read peoples bio, because, like my bio, says not to send me dog postcards, and i appreciate that people dont send them because it reminds me of my dog who i had to put down.
Reading their bio is important, so you dont send them something that will make them sad.
I think this discussion has run its course, so it’s time to wrap it up. To conclude: Postcrossing is about postcards, so you should always include a postcard in your mailings.
If you receive something that is not a postcard, you can choose to register it and explain to the person what you expected to receive instead.
Or, you can report it to the team, and we’ll have a look. If this is the first time we get a complaint or the person is new on the website, we’ll encourage you to register it with a message nudging the person in the right direction. If the person seems to be doing this systematically or they’ve been in Postcrossing for awhile and we feel like the member should know better by now, the team will contact the person instead.
I hope that helps! 
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