This month, out of the blue, I have received two private messages (from the main site, not the forum) from two different members in a single, fairly active European country. Both messages say (basically) I sent you a postcard xx days ago, you haven’t registered it…did you forget, or is it lost? Neither member is really new to Postcrossing…both being Postcrossers for longer than me (I’m at about 11 months).
The frustrating problem with these messages is that neither member appears to have done even the slightest amount of research into travel times from their country to mine, before firing off their messages. A very quick look at my statistics page on the main site would show them that I have indeed received at least one postcard from their country before…and that we are looking at a travel time of 40++ days to reach me.
The first user who messaged, had their card travelling for 32 days (and had even sent to my country before…and that card took much, much longer than 32 days). The second user was at 44 days (and had never sent to my country before). So neither of their postcards was travelling for an unduly long period. I have messaged both users back and politely told them about my statistics page, and not to worry about their postcards at this point.
I thought I’d just take this chance to point out here…in case people were unaware…that you are able to do quite a bit of research on average travel times using the Postcrossing main site. And if it’s important enough for you to be sending off ‘where is my postcard messages’…then it’s certainly important enough to spend 5 - 10 minutes looking at the stats before you do so 
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Even if the user in question had not previously received cards from your particular country…you are still able to do a search for other members from a particular country, then go to their postcards received, sort by country and check the travel times between your country and theirs this way. If you want to be especially thorough…you can also look at the dates of travel (Pandemic mail being slower than pre-Pandemic mail, Christmas-time mail taking longer than other times etc) and even drill down to specific regions within countries by looking at the individual postcards (mail to capital cities generally travelling faster than mail to outlying regional areas) etc.
Now maybe I’m an idiot…and this whole messaging thing is a passive way of getting people to register your cards without having received them (neither message asked for this), but I guess the message I just want to leave here is that if you are genuinely worried about where your postcard is…there is a lot that you can do to check on what is ‘normal’ before wasting your time sending out messages.
If anyone needs more help searching for travel time stats, please feel free to send me a private message…I’m happy to try and show you in more detail where and how you can look at this information.
Have a great day! 
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of the world…without also receiving email from people wanting to know why you haven’t registered their card yet. I’m like…acckkkkkk!!! I KNOW how you feel…believe me 
So yeah…the domestic circus is another thing entirely.
I have to say that last months were really strange, much stranger than during the beginning of COVID pandemic. And I have contacted one user (yes, I am guilty) and yes, it was before the card was expired. Why?
But I don’t have a habit of sending emails to the receiver, unless I forget to write the Post ID on my card (It happened once…).