like others have said, your card perfectly matches her wishes. i have to say i received some cards before that matches my wishlist as well but i didnt quite enjoy, but i would never say so in the hurray message. firstly, my wishes are quite vague (on purpose) and secondly, most importantly, the sender really tried to send me something that they think i would like. that is super sweet. even that thought makes me happy, more so than the front of the card.
and also it is absolutely not fair of her to mention her children in the hurray message. if she wants child friendly cards she should say so in her profile.
I did look at the card and love it. Itâs a powerful depiction of an extremely well known literary character and is an important part of the arts and culture of a country. Itâs not like itâs an image from a Hollywood slasher movie.
If one specified that they wanted to receive Halloween cards and received this, you think it was a bad match? I still think itâs perfect.
But personally if someone has profile which states that particular user likes cute things, Iâd send something more easily likeable (childrenâs book illustration, flowers, animals etc.).
Iâd keep postcard like this for some culture vulture - someone, who mentions music, art, literature on their profile.
edit: I looked too at her profile - it doesnât make sense. If you donât want to receive some postcards - just simply mention it. If you have them on your wishlist - donât be angry when you receive postcards matching your wishes. If you have in mind some subcategory which isnât obvious at all (e.g. Halloween means for you black cats and cute girls in witchesâ costumes) - explain it.
I donât like scary things and I donât find that card too disturbing or controversial. It is an artistic representation of an important literary figure. I guess perhaps if they didnât notice the black torso and thought it was just a disembodied head. I donât think you did anything wrong though.
I have received a card which matched my wishlist but which I didnât really like for personal reasons (it showed a shirtless man which I just felt objectified that individual too much but I also realize I have a more conservative view of the world than others). I decided not to keep the card but said thank you to the recipient and left the image on my wall. Not everyoneâs tastes are the same but you tried to fit their wishlist.
You could offer another card if youâd like, but I donât think itâs necessary. Perhaps you could explain why you sent the card with an apology for disturbing them but again, I donât think itâs necessary.
I hope it had a description on the back, so that it was not taken out of context. If I donât know that it is from the book and all, I might be a bit worried why someone is sending me this, what it could mean, or why they selected it. But once you know the background, itâs just an illustration of a famous book, that matches 3 different things from the profile, and then I would understand.
That it was a stamp in the UK, that I wouldnât know so I wouldnât even think of that.
In short I think it depends on what the recipient has been explained about the card on the back.
I once saw (didnât receive, just saw) a postcard with a photo of military that are about to execute their captive. Now that kind of thing, for me is not ok, whatever the context. For example.
Very simply, you did nothing wrong. The recipient should register the card and toss it. This wringing of hands about some received cards really puzzles me.
Iâm reading this topic and it made me think. I wrote in my profile that I donât like cards with any dark topics. But it also says that I like true crime and history, which are dark topics. I wonder if it looks confusing I guess reading about dark things and receiving dark pictures are two different things.
I looked at the card and the recipient profile. To me the Frankenstein card image is more sad than horrific. But, there was nothing on her profile to indicate you shouldnât send it. Nowhere did she say she has children or that the card should be child-friendly. And she did say she wants Halloween cards! The Boris Karloff âFrankensteinâ mask is a fixture of Halloween, here in North America at least.
Strictly speaking I think you owe her neither an apology nor a new card, but you might like to offer one or both out of kindness, along with the gentle suggestion that she include âchild-friendlyâ etc. on her profile to avoid future distress.
I just had a look at this card. Itâs amazing. I would love to receive such a unique card. Donât worry about the message too much. Sometimes people like the cards they receive and sometimes they donât. Youâve done nothing wrong.
I wonder if the parent even is aware Frankenstein is a classic piece of literature? Perfect time to explain art.
I imagine the Royal Mail has a committee that reviews stamps. I wouldnt worry about it.
I would love to get that card.
Thereâs nothing wrong with sending this card. Even without context, it would be the portrait of a man with a scarred face. Thatâs nothing one would not encounter in real life, and probably sooner than later.
I recognize the recipientâs wish to protect her children. However, that responsibility cannot be delegated to you. If she thinks that images are not suitable for her children, it is on her to not show the cards to them.
If you donât want to receive some postcards - just simply mention it. If you have them on your wishlist - donât be angry when you receive postcards matching your wishes. If you have in mind some subcategory which isnât obvious at all (e.g. Halloween means for you black cats and cute girls in witchesâ costumes) - explain it.
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