I guess they are trying NICELY to tell people to write a message, not ordering strictly. If you want it to be an order to write a message, you can suggest that to the admins.
2 Likes
Do you mean the text I shared? It says: please, also include a message⌠Doesnât it mean: please, write a message to the receiver?
1 Like
No no no, I donât have a desired interpretation, but a need for an official one.
1 Like
Iâm not sure what you mean by âofficialâ? My quotes are from the official site. It is said there that you should write a message too, not only an ID number.
1 Like
Yes, yes. I mean, thatâs how I read it. Like you said itâs not strictly ordering, but politely asking to write something other than address/id as an important part of sending a postcard in this projectđ¤ So although is not an order per se, it is a condition.
This is my perspective on that text, of course. Thanks for sharing it, I havenât remembered where I saw that first. 
2 Likes
You know, âviolationâ is a rather serious term, which we may not be eligible to apply. Since PC guidelines clearly rule something as violation, so I wonder the status of this one.
Itâs in the community guidelines ( and answers in F.A.Q)
1 Like
If you want an official answer/opinion, you might get it easier by tagging @paulo or @meiadeleite to your question.
1 Like
I agree, but I assume theyâre quite busy now with other bigger issuesâŚâŚ
Definitely agree and that is why I recommended tagging them. Otherwise there wonât be official answer that you needed but just users giving their opinions. But hopefully you will get the needed answer soon.
2 Likes
1 Like
Thank you Shalottslady for your kind help. I appreciate your concern.
I actually do make my own postcards (I get them professionally printed) but that brings up the question of âare they real postcards or the hated homemade?ââŚLOL. I have purchased cards online but I canât say I like most of them so that colours my view. I like to showcase my beautiful province as well.
Joyce
3 Likes
Hi, Folks,
I have sent 235 cards, and I am becoming most unhappy with Postcrossers who have a demanding attitude toward cards to receive. Some say things like, I want only this kind of cards, and some have long lists of collections they want fulfilled. Some even ask us to peruse their collections before picking a card.
Iâve decided that when I meet a blurb that is really demanding, I am going to send one of my least-liked postcards to them. It wonât be a damaged card or an ad card, but simply a postcard I donât really like.
Maybe, if lots of us do that, they will get the idea that their mass of requests is not working.
What do you think?
Helen
13 Likes
I donât think that will have much effect Helen.
What Iâd suggest you might think about instead is - what card would you like to see up on your sent wall?
Whenever I get a profile without much info or with demands I canât meet, then I just suit myself & pick a card I love because I know itâs going to show up on my sent wall. It makes me happy & thatâs all I can control right?
Those demanding profiles are annoying but thereâs not much I can do to change their perspective, but I can change how I approach the process - what will delight me instead?
34 Likes
Thank you @LC-Canada for your comment.
That hadnât occurred to me, that I will be hurting myself in the process of trying to hurt them.
Good ideaâI shouldnât lower myself to their level, after all!
Helen
9 Likes
Sometimes people who have demanding list delete cards that they dont like, but yes i would pick something that will look good on my wall. i often look cards that the person send, if they send beautiful cards then i would like to send them also something niceâŚ
4 Likes
Just today I drew an address of someone with very specific wishes and a long âdonât sendâ list⌠I admit it gave me a pang of frustration. 
But I also think that âpunishingâ demanding profiles with not matching cards is bad for my Postcrossing karma - thatâs why I chose a card I like. 
Luckily these profiles arenât the majority!
12 Likes
I did this at the beginning, but now wonât go through a wall with 3.000 recieved cards because someone âdoesnât want to recieve doublesâ. If they provide a collection album, Iâll check it before I choose a card, but I wonât stress about it anymore. Itâs important to do this hobby how I like it. 
8 Likes
I donât look at the process of sending someone whose profile I found unpleasant as a punishment. But I wont send my favourite card, I send those to the ones I feel connecting with or who I found much nicer and open in their profile.
I then choose a card based on what they have sent (if I donât have an easy wish accessable) but I mostly choose a card I think wonât be missed.
The kind of card I wonât end up thinking âdamn, why did I send it, it would be perfect for this (new) address!â. Not necessarily an ugly card or a card I dislike, but maybe a simple themed card I have multiple of.
3 Likes
I have no problem with âdemandingâ profiles. And a long wish list gives me more confidence that the card I choose will please the recipient.
I usually look through the lists of favorites and received from my country, but only if they are not too long.
Antiwish doesnât bother either. And in any case, I would never âpunishâ someone by sending him/her an ugly postcard.
Just remember that you donât have to comply all the requirements, and you will no more have the reason to be angry
10 Likes