Just to let you know how it goes, 2,5 months after I started the topic.
I now have a group of great friends via letter and/or e-mail, and I am very happy with them.
And I sent and received some cards with wonderful people who wanted to support me.
My mailbox is not often empty anymore. And because of “The Friends Club” I’m not celebrating my birthday alone this year, for the first time in years.
But in real life, here in the village where I live, I hardly see or speak to anyone. Sometimes in the supermarket or on the road when I go shopping. Someone I meet by chance. I have more contact with my pen pals abroad than with my upstairs neighbor or a good neighbor in the street.
When I speak to someone “in real life”, face to face, the conversations are better. We have something to tell each other again. It’s weird because I never wrote much on Facebook. But it seems like if you didn’t write it on FB it wouldn’t be there. But there is so much more than what you write or read on FB.
So if I only wrote about f.ex. nature, then apparently that was the only thing in my life, then people didn’t think about other things. And now that people don’t see those messages anymore, people are suddenly interested in everything about me again.
As if people first thought: what should we talk about, what did she write on Facebook, oh nature. I don’t know what to say about nature. And now that they don’t see me on Facebook anymore, they think more openly: what shall we talk about, what can I ask?
I had a conversation with the employee at the store when I bought stamps. She wanted to give me ugly price stickers instead of real stamps. I talked with her about postcrossing and she was very interested. And a little jealous “Others only get bills and you get so much nice mail!”
But because of the letters and e-mails I get, I feel much beter. It takes some time, but it grows with each letter. I have the feeling that I have contact with people again and that I exist again. And I also feel that I can be a friend to others. That is also important and valuable to me. So it really means a lot to me. Thank you very much everyone.