It hasnāt happened to me, neither as sender nor receiver. But as a sender I would wish to be contacted if my card doesnāt arrive in a reasonable time.
Recently it happened with one lottery card, luckily I had another copy of that card and sent it over again
If Iām the sender, I ask the recipient if they received it but only if itās been really long, like longer than 3 months. If Iām the recipient, I just accept the loss and move on. I havenāt received about 15% to 18% of the cards that I should have received in tags.
I have better luck with round robins (RRs), there are only five or six cards I never received.
Iād like to be notified if my card doesnāt arrive, so I extend the same courtesy. If someoneās card doesnāt arrive, Iāll let them know. But Iād probably give it 3-4 months. And I wouldnāt ask for a resend. Although most people have been very kind and have resent when their cards didnāt arrive.
Naturally, there are those who donāt respond back. In which case, Iāll just count the card as a loss and move on.
As the sender, if someone doesnāt update me on whether or not they received my card, Iāll check in on them about 3 months from the date I sent the card. If they tell me they never received it, Iāll resend (either the same card, or if I no longer have a copy, then another card of their choosing or from their wishlist).
Iām facing the same problem now actually. This Postcrosser tagged me in quite a number of Tags, and messaged me to say that she will only send the rest out once her first tagged postcard arrives, to āconfirmā my address.
It has been two months plus and nothing has arrived, and a typical mail from her country doesnāt take that long. I have a feeling she might be one of those who only tags to receive but not to send. I wish to give her the benefit of doubt too, but Iām starting to get suspicious.
If you were active in the old forum you would see that many member wrote in their signature āplease u2u me when you receive or donāt receive my cardā. How I miss signature.
Before pandemic I u2u-ed the tagger after 3 months, sometimes 4 months if they were from China or Russia. During pandemic I only u2u-ed twice, after 6 months, to Germany and Netherlands members.
I donāt think I will notify again since mail is very slow. I received cards from Belarus in 10 months and from Finland in 8 months. Some countries use surface mail now.
I used to send a message to people when I was new to the forum but then I stopped. These days I just accept that participating in tags means that cards arenāt always going to arrive.
Iām not a frequent participant in tag games for the same reason.
On topic: Sometimes people donāt even ask address in the tags, and sometimes postcards donāt arrive, but I think everyone deserves a benefit of a doubt, like sender could have full batch of postcards lost or delayed. Itās a risk of not receiving you have even in official postcrossing or when swapping cards for years with trusted penpals. So I donāt write messages (and refuse offers to resend to me), but do resend if not arrived in 3-4 months (only if recipient writes, myself I consider I have no I influence on the fate of a postcard once itās in the mailbox), and participate tags, where I really enjoy sending, and not receiving
EDIT: Isnāt there a chance in tags that you will never be tagged back anyway?
I totally agree with you.
I always give feedback to the sender of any tag cards I get, and I would love if they did the same, but if they donāt, then thatās it.
I must admit that I havenāt got a very good track-keeping system for my tag cards, so if theyāve been travelling too long I tend to forget about them.
The case of @whitefroststreetboi is really strange, thoughā¦ I would probably contact that person and ask if she has any idea what happened to her cards - itās quite unlikely that several cards from her to you all got lost on the way! If she doesnāt have a plausible answer I would probably try to avoid her in the future.
In my opion playing tag ist just that - a game. Sometimes you win and receive the most amazing cards, and sometimes you lose, send out a card and get nothing in returnā¦
This is why I only do tags occasionally, when I really, really want to send a card and all other options like officials cards and RRs have been taken care of.
The tags are still moderated .
I also do check the tags .
Do not hesitate to send me a P.M. if you have any questions.
The tags on this new forum have been opened by members, they have set the rules.
Some members have adopted the rules of the old tag, the explanation of the tag.
āReportingā is always possible.
The term has now changed to āflag a memberā.
Regarding the tags, I see the reported tags. ( flagged tags/ comments)
I cannot see other reported posts.
These were visible to me on the old forum. ( reported u2u messages)
The admin team will see these reported posts.
If you have any questions/comments donāt hesitate to send me a P.M.
This applies to all activities on the forum.
You can find more information below here :
Reporting a Post (aka Flags)
If you see bad behavior or a problematic post, donāt reply to it ā just flag it. Youāll find the flag icon on the ā¦ button at the end of each post.
When flagging a post, you can choose one of several options to let the moderators know what is wrong with the post, or choose to send the author a private message regarding their post.
The members who opened the tags either kept the rules on the old forum or removed the rules.
If you would like to see some lines added back, please let me know.
The tags are moderated by @meiadeleite and me, @JetteLise.
I was the moderator regarding the old forum . @meiadeleite is also a moderator regarding the tags since the beginning of new forum .
I have not changed my name.
This has been changed because the PC account and forum account are linked.
I would really like to use my name (Jette) again, but apparently this is not possible. (Iāve tried this several times already.)
Thank you for very useful links! If I see tags without rules (like for new members it might be confusing who requests addresses etc.), I will let you know!
Itās very nice to know, that all tags are kept an eye on
Please inform me, also ācheaters/ spammers etc.ā. .
If you donāt see the green dot, Iām still online .
Due to the privacy rules I do not want my forum profile to be visible to everyone.
This is now also visible on the internet, for everyone.
Therefore, many members have their profile checked as āhiddenā.
almost every time i tag somebody, then i post a picture of the backside of the postcard or envelope iām going to send, showing them their address and the stamp on it, so they know i am really going to send it.
i do the same thing for the winners of my lotteries
I always let sender know when I receive my card and I appreciate my recipients when they do the same. Based on my short experience, most of them do
Iād probably resend if my card got lost, but I donāt think Iād ask anyone to resend. Itās all part of the game.
At the moment, I mainly participate in favourites tags which all seem to be moderated, although Iāve noticed several people not following all the rules (most of these tags have the rule where certain amount of people has to tag before you tag again to promote diversity). However, these tags move quite fast and rarely get stuck so itās not a big problem
Thatās probably against the tag rules, so Iād flag the user. If they wanted the card to arrive before sending more, then they should have tagged you only once.
Iām totally a tag lover that almost 80% of postcards I sent are from tags. I take pictures of every postcard I sent both back and front, so if someone hasnāt received my postcard, I can at least show what I wrote on it. But I donāt really want to resend another postcard, because the expired is not my fault after allā¦
Aslo, I wonāt ask for resend. But if someone takes the initiative to resend, I will happily accept the kind offer.
How do you get your profile as hidden? I tried to look this up as option, but canāt find it. I canāt either see how my profile is visible, fully exposed or hiddenā¦Either I didnāt know your profile is visible on the Internet.